so I searched and google this, it was very hard, did all the tutorials, with samba, to everything else,
i could get them connected i could see my ip and everything but couldnt see files shared with unbuntu and could not see my windows files (ubuntu instantly picks my connection up when i share my internet connection, it then starts sending and receiving packets. if i dont share my internet it doesnt receive packets)
now i can see my ip and info in the connection info.
what i did was a way around my problem, thinking outside the box, i set up filezilla's file server on windows,
now on ubuntu i can go to connect to server, put in the default rout ip (in my connection info area of ubuntu), put my user name and pass for my windows name.
boom! connected.