Awesome - you are 90% home.
What are the specs for your external monitor, ie the vertical and horizontal frequency ranges? Whatever you do, save your existing /etc/X11/xorg.conf file as a backup.
Then, you may want to edit/change/add in these values: (gksudo gedit /etc/X11/xorg.conf, or in a terminal sudo nano /etc/X11/xorg.conf)
CHANGE the horizontal and vertical freqs to match those of your own monitor's specs!
Section "Monitor"
Identifier "Configured Monitor"
HorizSync 30-87
VertRefresh 50-85
EndSection
Section "Screen"
Identifier "Default Screen"
Monitor "Configured Monitor"
Device "Configured Video Device"
DefaultDepth 24
SubSection "Display"
Depth 24
Modes "1280x960"
EndSubSection
EndSection
Do NOT put quotes around either of the Depth values..
...+ more of your existing xorg.conf...
CHANGE the vertical and horizontal freqs to match the specs of your monitor! Log out and log back in to see the change, or simply reboot.
If you can't find your monitor specs, post what it is and maybe we can help find them....